**🔼 Up:** [[Change Without Force]] **⏺️ With:** [[Paradox of Change]] **\#️⃣ Tags:** #Being #Wisdom > **🌱 Planted:** Sat 21 June 2025 --- A change agenda is any desire to fix, improve, correct or transform the way things are, whether about ourselves, within our inner worlds and experience, with others, or within the outer world in general. A lot of the time, we don't know how to simply let things be. We don't know how to let things be because we're [[Technological Attunement|technologically attuned]] to the world instead of [[Poetic Attunement|poetically attuned]], and we're always trying to get somewhere rather than being okay with just [[There's nowhere else to be but here now|being here now]]. A change agenda is therefore essentially **resistance to what is**, and it can be conscious or unconscious, so sometimes we may not even be aware that we have one. Some examples of having a change agenda: - "I hate this anxiety, I need to get rid of it." - "You know, you should really open up more." - "I just really want this [[Parts|Part]] to let go." At first glance, change agendas seem helpful. They usually come from a good place in the name of improving something or making it better. Who doesn't want to change things to make them better, right? While well-intentioned, the underlying message is one of rejection, as in, "this is not okay exactly as it is". There is an underlying implication that something is wrong, broken, defective or deficient in some way. When we have a change agenda toward ourselves, what we're actually telling ourselves that we don't accept ourselves exactly as we are. The same is true for when we have a change agenda toward someone else. People can feel when someone else is imposing a change agenda against them. It might be really subtle and unconscious, but it's still felt. The same is true even when we are working with our [[Parts]] in [[Parts Work]]. If wished one of our Parts were different, or we just wanted it to get better and change, the Part doesn't soften and melt because it's not being seen, heard, understood, loved and valued for the exact way it is. That is, it is not getting it's developmental and emotional needs met. Change agendas are also a symptom of the cultural air we breathe. Our modern, western and achievement-based society conditions us to constantly optimise, upgrade, and improve constantly. But any change that takes place as result of a change agenda is often temporary because it is catalysed from an underlying rejection or sense of deficiency. More often than not, we end up just going back to old behavioural patterns after some time. Real change and transformation instead sticks when it comes from a place of deep acceptance and allowing for the truth of what is. # See Also - We often have a Change Agenda when we're [[Technological Attunement|Technologically Attuned]]. - Instead of a Change Agenda, we can collect our love for [[Truth, Beauty & Goodness]] for its own sake, adopt a [[Poetic Attunement]], and practice [[Letting Be]].