**⏺️ With:** [[Collective Trauma]] **\#️⃣ Tags:** #Trauma #Relational > **🌱 Planted:** Sat 8 February 2025 --- ***The loss of our personal subjectivity is passed on generationally.*** ![[Generational Trauma.png]] Our personal subjectivity (our right to exist as separate and unique individuals) requires that our [[Developmental Needs]] are adequately met in our early developmental years through a stable [[Holding Environment]] that is [[Empathic Attunement|empathically attuned]]. If our caregivers have struggled with their own unmet emotional needs in childhood, it can be really difficult for them to notice and [[Attunement|Attune]] to their children. Of course, how could they when their own subjectivity might not've been adequately recognised, mirrored and validated in their l years? When this happens, our caregivers might unconsciously [[Projection|Project]] and [[Displacement|Displace]] the [[Publish/Elements/Dictionary/Repression|Repressed]] pain of their own unmet needs onto their children, who then sadly adapt to the needs of their parent instead of the other way around (see: [[Narcissistic Family|The Narcissistic Family System]]). This creates a [[Relational Power Dynamics|Relational Power Dynamic]] where the child’s own subjectivity is often overlooked, invalidated, or suppressed, perpetuating and enabling the transmission of [[Trauma]] across generations. When our caregivers haven't confronted their own deep feelings of shame, worthlessness, and dependency—as per the [[Narcissistic Wounding|Narcissistic Wounding]]—these unhealed wounds manifest in their relationships with others, including their children. As a result, the child develops their own wounds, which they then recreate in their adult relationships and in how they parent their own children. # See Also - See [[Object Relations]] for the understanding around how [[Self-Concept|Our sense of self unfolds intersubjectively, not separately]]. - It's important to attune to our children (and really everyone) Poetically, so they can be seen in their inherent [[Truth, Beauty & Goodness]]. - [[Narcissistic Family|The Narcissistic Family System]] describes a family system where the needs of the parents supersede the needs of the children. - [[Family Enmeshment|Enmeshed Family Systems]] describes what happens to our autonomy and identity from a family systems perspective when our personal subjectivity is invalidated.