**🔼 Up:** [[Change Without Force]] **⏺️ With:** [[Paradox of Change]], [[Change Agenda]] **\#️⃣ Tags:** #Wisdom #Principle > **🌱 Planted:** Sat 21 June 2025 --- In the presence of a [[Change Agenda]], our instinct is often to push, fix, or improve whatever we’re experiencing. But as we know from the [[Paradox of Change|Paradox of Change]], the real catalyst for change isn't change, it is acceptance. In [[Aletheia Coaching]], to work with (not against) the Paradox of Change, we collect our love for [[Truth, Beauty & Goodness]], adopt a [[Poetic Attunement]], and practice **Letting Be & Letting Unfold**. **Letting Be** is where we allow and meet experience exactly as it is, without resistance, interpretation, or an attempt to make it different. It isn't passivity or doing nothing, it is a deep relational and [[Empathic Attunement]] to the inner world that says 'you are welcome here exactly as you are'. We practice this with ourselves, and when we are relating and connecting to others, both in and out of coaching. When the [[Parts]] of us feel genuinely seen and accepted for their emotional truths, they no longer have the need to armour and protect, and they instead begin to soften and melt. When we plant an acorn, it takes a long time for it to grow into an oak tree. Often decades. The acorn, however, is not a deficient oak tree. It is simply developing and unfolding as it does in its true nature. **Letting Unfold** is therefore simply the trust in Life that something deeper is already moving, developing and unfolding. When we are coaching or simply connecting with others, there is a deep trust in the innate wisdom and intelligence of their own unique unfoldment journey. > [!tip] > There are many different terms, traditions and frameworks people have come up with that point to the same essential concept as Letting Be & Letting Unfold. Some of these are: > - Radical Acceptance (Tara Brach) > - Loving Presence ([[Hakomi Method|Hakomi]]) > - Unconditional Positive Regard (Carl Rogers) > - Letting Go (David Hawkins) # See Also - [[Wu-Wei (無為)]] - [[Change Agenda]] - [[Poetic Attunement]]